This very scene happens in rest homes all the time.  I think that now is the time to insist that our elders get to enjoy all personal rights, just as they choose.  And the healthy selfish reason for that?  When we succeed, it means that those rights will be there when it's our turn.  Please e-mail me at:  pjones41@kc.rr.com, and come join me on facebook, too.  Farmville, anyone?